Except…I don’t actually think he’s that hot or whatever, technically. He’s sexy. More than that, his attitude and flamboyant personality make him more attractive. If he were a meek hipster singer-songwriter with an acoustic guitar, I’d pass.
As a super-tight pant wearing, high-note singing queen, he’s totally bad ass and doable. What makes Jake Shears hot is his own sense of body image and self-esteem, the “I don’t give a fuck” attitude that comes with being decidedly NOT worried about what people may think of him.
I’ve always had trouble with that last part. I want people to like me, often to a fault. This is probably because I was raised in a very small town always knowing I was different. I didn’t have many friends growing up, except my cousins and brothers. I was never the popular kid in school. I was often picked on or taunted, which I ignored because the same group of asshats picked on everybody. It was an extremely small school, so they had to widen their target range to cheerleaders and fellow athletes. Everybody got shit, so whatever. That was a long time ago and people who hold on to that shit really need to see a therapist. Point is, nobody really wanted to hang out or be my friend. It has taken me a long time to get to a point where I don’t try to make people like me by compromising part of myself or trying to get what I want in a passive aggressive manner so as not to upset them. It kind of feels good to say: If you don’t like it, fuck you!
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