‘Dancing with the Stars’ besties Mark Ballas and Derek Hough make a cute couple.

When two dudes get close, it’s bromance — a relationship between two guys that has the appearance of a romantic entanglement.

These guys know what I’m talkinabout.

Even to the casual observer, the attraction is obvious and they must be doing it. When two people become intertwined in each other’s life, assumptions are made no matter what your sexual orientation.

If the two parties are attracted to the same type; a hetero guy-girl or homo girl-girl/guy-guy, it’s immediate fuck-talk fodder. I mean, they must be doing it!

My BFF and I have been hanging tough since the late ’90s. We’ve never done it, even though we’re both gay guys. Everybody naturally assumes we’re together. It can be such a cock block sometimes.

In my life, friendships have been far more enduring than any boyfriend situation. While I have a small glimmer of hope that one day I will fall in love and partner up, is that really necessary? Must that be the ultimate goal of a relationship? One thing I know for sure: You can’t turn a friendship into romance. Tried it, multiple times, and it doesn’t work. There’s a dynamic in place for a reason; it is what it is.

A marriage, or best friend you have sex with, seems attainable for others, so finding a husband may even be possible in my lifetime. Until then, I’m totally satisfied with good friends and a side piece. Not everything fits into one container!

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  • Michael Rivers

    I totally agree! Great friends are so important and last far far longer! And then get some on the side!

  • PATRICK

    Unfortunatly, you are so right… There is nothing such as 'love for life' it's just an christian fantasy relayed by books and Hollywood ever since. It makes everyone feel bad about not getting it and most girls crying at weddings (not their's… although…)

    Friends are the key to real happy life, and lovers until we can grab them (afterwards, it will be only about money :) ). Just goes perfectly together and we should never had to choose between one of 'hem.

    That's my thoughts at least.

    Really enjoyed your columns

    KUTGTW

    Cheers Patrick

  • Cogent Ascending

    I would give both my left testicles to see the boys from jersey shore gay it up by playing hide the salami w each other.

  • Julie Julie

    I love Mark Ballas!!

    D-Hough unfort. is not cute. At first I thought Mark was gay, but now I think maybe he's not.

  • http://www.betterby30.com Westopher

    @PATRICK I'm not holding out for the fantasy, but it sure does sound nice…

    Really though, even if you do find a perfect mate, one of you just dies anyways — leaving the other one lonely and old!

  • PATRICK

    Sure do. And I couldn't agree more, nevertheless, and I'm the devil's'advocate in this, should't we play the game because we know how it ends?
    Beleive me, I've been a strong defenser of the big LOVE and neverending romance story, but like every stories, it has an end. I still hopes and bitch about it (I followed my big L in US, so I know about foolish :) )
    Did you watch 'the Celluloid Closet' ? You shud. That's'an eye opener. Or at least that was to me.
    Take care and kutgw.

    Patrick